My point of view marriage life is last stage of boring life. If you bore with your freedom then you get married. As per indian culture if we are get marry no one can free to live mostly happen with woman. But man can free to live even he married/unmarried doesn’t matter but for women everything matter. Mostly this thing happen with middle and lower class family also uneducated family. If once get married we just take care all the family members after that make baby after that also need to take care of family members. This whole things involved into married life in that whole thing we can’t identify ourself we can’t realize that we are live. We can’t feel we can’t touch our feeling we can’t happy with life.
This is one way point but some people happy with married life. So as per surrounded environment we sometime proof wrong. By chance if life partner get luckily same as per mind consideration then might be chances of married life goes happy. Otherwise compromise is only last option for live life. Because as per indian middle class family culture we can’t leave our life partner without satisfaction/big reason this bullshit thing happen here. Although, things have changed.. a lot with the fresh generation. But in many small towns and villages , and few of the big cities people still have this mindset.
As per my experience If you genuine feel to marry a person then you can go with but only you responsible for that. So many restrictions and responsibilities come along with this new life. If then you feel like you have mature to handle all of them then you can happily go.
Before married you will be thinking like when you get married your life partner help to succeed and achieve your dreams then its totally superstition(blind faith). 🙂
If you marry with right person with right time then it chances of happy married.
Some people says that “married life is like a beautiful castle. It takes some time to build it. If you don’t have good virtues like patience and compassion, it will soon start to collapse. This wonderful relationship has to be cemented by the trust which gives robustness to withstand the test of time. Married life begins to shatter when one of the partners start to cheat on or try to dominate the other. Sometimes the damage is such that there is no scope of repair or reconciliation in the relationship. I will never say that married life is boring. But when the couple starts living only for the sake of children or the fear of society, the relationship becomes boring.”
“It is your life. You live it the way you want to live it. Life is too short to be unhappy.”
Signs of a boring relationship
- You don’t enjoy spending time together.
- You don’t feel interested about your partner’s life, sentiments, or interests.
- You don’t give as much consideration to one another as you did toward the start of your relationship.
- Contemplating the fate of your relationship causes you to feel uncomfortable or troubled.
- You want to change your accomplice or your relationship.
- You feel like you don’t share anything for all intents and purpose.
- You struggle with tracking down things to discuss.
- You frequently feel bothered or irritated with your accomplice or the other way around.
- You don’t feel attracted to them anymore.
- You aren’t having sex anymore
- You’re not communicating at all and ignoring frequently
- There is no sense of romance
- Finding options / happiness outside
- Frequently coming negative thoughts about partner
- You don’t appreciate each other anymore.
- Doesn’t feel single interesting thing into partner
What is solution? Compromise with married life?
A successful marriage is based on
- Give respect take respect to your partner.
- Trust on your partner.
- Every time communicate with partner share everything bad and happy things.
- Wish to every moments.
- Take care of all the regular things that happen.
- Insecurity, jealousy is need between partners.
- Please keep differentiate personal and professional life.
- Make a feel special to your partner when you get time and moments.
- Every holiday make outing plan.
- Make effort and gain sufficient money that atleast your partner not dissatisfied.
- Every single responsibility apply on only one partner it’s both of yours responsibility.
- If you feel partner hide something or lie with you then find reason why happen this, don’t blame to your partner.
- If you feel you don’t continue with partner and you haven’t capability to compromise then please communicate with partner first then parents and make proper decision. After this decision you should be strong to face next all situation regarding your happiness.
- Afterall your partner didn’t loved you and also parents also not support then accept all the situations and spend more time on work and your hobbies. Finally you may get way achievements and get love from people. This is success of key and stable life.
Comparison india and other countries married life
Indian married life
- Marriages in India have been more about devotion onwards husband, having kids and catering to the needs of the family (for women). Men go to work, they are the bread winners for the family. Wife looks after the kids and the household chores. In any dispute, mostly the decision of the male family head is final.
- Mother is the humble one and father the strict one. Husband and wife are mostly bound to stick together because of “what the society will say” and of course because of the mantras that were chanted by the priest during their wedding ceremony.
- Here in India, marriage is important because having kids is important. And as soon as a couple gets married , the whole family (groom’s or the bride’s) and the entire neighborhood suddenly becomes interested to know when the newly Weds are gonna have a kid! Divorces are a taboo and not to be spoken of.
- And caste is the main criteria to decide which girl or the guy is the most suitable one to spend the entire life with.
- Can’t easily divorced reason is that they emotionally attached.
Other countries married life
- Marriage is the coming of two souls together that have decided to live together for the rest of their lives. Marriage is coming together of two people. sure the families are involved but after the marriage the couple move from the families and they are allowed to carry on with their lives without interference which explains the freedom the couple have and higher divorce rates.
- Both partners are equal participate into every things like money spent for family, business and decision of born to baby, take care of baby.
- No one involved into decisions instead of couple even their parents also. They take decisions independently.
- Cast doesn’t matter, may be some countries cast is not present their.
- Easily divorced because they think practically.
“This is only one life that god had gifted to us then why we spend boring. Have a fun. If you feel like life get boring after marry then please don’t waste time into marriage but keep one single person into like that he/she will take care of yourself Afterall our parents not living lifetime with us so we need one partner that he/she will take care of ours like parents.“
Conclusion
What a marriage should be about love, passion and partnership. It should be about two people who get each other’s company and get to decide how they want to live their entire life. They have a good 60 years ahead, which is a long time. Don’t get married because you are over 30 years or because society wants you to or because your mother wants a grandchild. Goal of a marriage should not be having kids, but to have fun. Kids and career should be part of life and both of them will always need attention but don’t forget to have fun all along. And yeah, marriage does not mean compromising your own individuality. So, that should always be preserved. You should never forget who you are and what you wanted. Compromises will and should be done but not just by one but the both of them. Gender should not decide the work one is suppose to do, but the fact that they are partners in everything should. The fact that the woman gets pregnant is wrong. I thing it is always the couple who gets pregnant, so the baby should not just be the mother’s responsibility but both the parent’s. Lie should be a big No No. Three words, Love, Trust and Respect- these should define the relationship. And if these things persists in your marriage, you should never turn your back on your spouse, coz yours is a perfect marriage! Life is not a bed of roses so ups and downs will always be there. Sometimes, life will take a bad and ugly shape but the important part is to stick to each other and have faith.
